13 things I learned in 2013

***I’ve been trying to get this post out for the last 15 days, but finally here it is***

2013 sucked!  Okay, Okay…..I know that sounds a bit harsh, but it’s true.  2013 had some highs, but oh did it have some lows!  2013 was like a roller coaster and I surely felt when it would incline and the gut wrenching drops.  The best part about it is, you know the roller coaster will eventually stop and as you unbuckle your seat belt, you smile and walk away with a t-shirt bearing the words, “I survived to tell the story.”

2013 was a year of plentiful lessons that needed to be taught and lessons that needed to be learned.  I can raise my hand confidently and say I received both.  The biggest lesson for me was patience, understanding, and most of all……growth.  I learned just how strong I was and boy I thought I knew my own strength.  I accomplished a few small goals and I gained a few long-term goals.  But most of all……I made it!!

Of all the things I learned in 2013, here are 13 things that stood out and gave me the biggest lessons:

1.  Just because it sounds good in my head and even look great on paper, it still doesn’t mean it will happen that way.

Earlier in 2013(January) I moved back to Georgia without my Husband because I got transferred through my job.  The plan had been I would get here and continue working and by the end of the month, he would be here with a job.  Clearly we both missed the memo because He didn’t arrive until August.

2.  Just How much I loved my Husband

I love my Husband clearly because I married him, but being separate from my Husband for those 8 months was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with.  Even though we were visiting back and forth between South Carolina and Georgia, it wasn’t enough.  I really missed my husband.  Which brings me to #3…..

3.  I cannot sleep peacefully without my Husband

I know that sounds just as cheesy as can be, but it is absolutely true!  Being away from my Husband left me tossing and turning many nights because you seriously get use to sleeping next to your spouse.  I got the best sleep when I would go to South Carolina and visit or when he would come to Georgia to visit me.

4.  Stressing only makes it worse

I learned really quickly that stressing about any situation will not change the outcome.  It only leaves you with plenty of headaches because in the end, it usually works itself out anyhow.

5.  The Truth really does Hurt

You know how you just know something, but yet it doesn’t make sense until you actually see it up close and personal.  Well, that is what I experienced a lot in 2013.

6. It’s really okay to say No

I do not have a hard time saying No, but what I do struggle with is saying No to certain people.  Last year I was able to say No to some people who I wouldn’t generally say No to and it felt really good.  Good enough to do it again if I need to….lol!

7. Crying is not a sign of weakness

I cry.  Actually I am a cry baby.  You would never know it unless you are family, a bestie(best friend), or my husband.  I am that tough girl exterior, but a softy at heart.  I always thought letting people know you cry shows that you are weak, but last year that changed.  I learned that it is not a sign of weakness.  However, crying does help release whatever you have pinned up inside.  There were times crying was exactly what I needed and I could just move on to whatever it was that might have been bothering me.

8.  The tongue is a mighty weapon.

I am so guilty of speaking before I think.  This is just beyond the “Oh, I tell it like it is”.  Bottom line……you have to chose your words carefully and every battle is not even worth having.  Because if it is going to cause you grief and the party(s) involved, then it was never worth it to begin with.  You cannot take back words.  People forgive, but it is sometimes hard to forget.

9.  Dust yourself Off and Try again.

There is a quote that always stick out in my head by retired basketball player Michael Jordan…..”I can accept failure, everyone fails at something.  But, I cannot accept not trying again.”  It’s okay to keep trying because you will never know if you can, if you do not try.

10.  It’s okay to be taken care of.

I am so used to taking care of others that when it is my turn, it actually feels foreign.  Well, there were a few times last year, especially the last few weeks of the year that I had to surrender and be taken care of.  And it felt good to finally accept that it’s okay.

11.  Family and Friendship is important.

Sometimes when you do go through things and having your family there to support you through it, makes a difference.  I could not have gotten through some parts of last year without Family and close friends.

12.  Write the Vision.

My favorite scripture is Habakkuk 2:2-3.

“Write the vision
And make it plain on tablets,
That he may run who reads it.
For the vision is yet for an appointed time;
But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come,
It will not tarry.”

This has always been my go-to scripture over the last several years. Matter of fact, “Writing the vision” was prophesied to me at the start of the year.  For me, seeing it is believing it.  If I see it written then I can commit it to memory and believe that it shall come to pass.

13.  I will never truly be at peace until I am walking in my God-given talents.

This is something I have known for quite sometime, but last year it was at the height of a lot of issues I was having mentally.  My state of mind by the end of the year was that I must push and push until I am exactly where I am supposed to be.  We fight for a lot of things and for me, that is what I am fighting for and I will not stop until I am there.

2013 was all about the lessons.  2014 will be about growth.  Growing into what was given to me at birth and flourishing into what has already been planned.  I welcome 2014 with open arms.  15 days into this new year and I can already see the start of this growth.  And the Journey continues……

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Happy 1 Year Blogiversary “Lovebugsworld”!!!!

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Lovebugsworld has officially made it 1 year!!  Thank you for all the love and support that I’ve received over the past year.  It has truly been a journey and I am so excited for the journey to continue.  I have met some of the most wonderful, amazing, talented, driven, (the list could go on) people through this blogging process.  Who would have known that blogging was a world within itself…..not me.  I am still in amazement from all the things I have come across over this year and I must say I have learned a lot.  And the one thing that stands out to me is that once you are apart of this world, you have so much love and support from all walks of people.  As I have stated so many times before, the direction that I intended for my blog to go in is not where it is.  But, that’s okay because my blog literally developed into something beyond my wildest dreams.  My goal is always to Bless as many people as I can possibly reach because I am Blessed and if that purpose is fulfilled, then I know I am doing exactly what He placed me here to do!!  If you take one thing from me that is to spread all of your awesomeness to as many people as you can possibly reach and exude all the love, passion, creativity, teachings, and all the great gifts that we all uniquely have and share it with the world!

As one of my favorite author’s says in a line from one of my favorite books “Oh, the Places you’ll go”…….

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~Lovebug

reACTion to reACT

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When we commit to action, to actually doing something rather than feeling trapped by events, the stress becomes manageable. 

~Greg Anderson

Today I just so happen to catch the end of Steve Harvey’s new talk show while eating lunch at work.  He was closing the show with some inspirational words.  He was sharing with us a few quotes that he lives by and one quote stuck out and stayed with me for the duration of my day….. 

“Be about the Business of doing something about it” 

We can’t just expect things to always just fall into place.  We have to actually get up and do something in order to be where we want to be.  Action=Success, so let’s get Active!!!

 ~Lovebug

Happy Friday and Happy 1st Day of February!!

 

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I Challenge you for February to:

~Mark off all the things you have completed for the Month of January

~Create a list of things to do for the Month of February

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~Try a different approach if what you are doing now is not working or moving along

~Continue doing things that are in alignment to elevate you to the next level

~Ready, Set, Gooooooo…..let’s get started!ready-set-go

 

 

 

Oh Happy Day what a New Day, New Theme, and Everything in Between…

Photo Credit:  copelandblog.blogspot.com

“Birds flying high

You know how I feel

Sun in the sky

You know how I feel

Breeze drifting on by

You know how I feel

It’s a New day

And I’m feeling good!”

~Jennifer Hudson’s “Feeling Good”~

What a great start to the beginning of an eventful New Year.  A New Year and another chance to begin again.  The slate has been wiped clean, so let’s begin!

First off…..did you check out lovebugsworld new theme!!!  I am so excited because usually my theme involves the inner creativity in me and this new theme is not short of my artistic nature, but it also has meaning.  For weeks I have been dreaming here and there of released balloons and today I decided to do some research on the meaning.  Here’s what I found…..

~People release balloons at Weddings, Funerals, or for personal meaning.  We can view them as a release of grief, a celebration of life, filled with messages, notes of remembrance, poems, etc.  They can also be filled with flower seeds or even bird seeds.

What I also found is that releasing balloons can be harmful.  To our animals and of course when they do come down, it’s littering.  So instead of releasing an actual balloon, let’s release it in spirit.  Let’s vow to let go of anything that will keep us from moving forward into the divined walk that God has placed us here for.

As for why I have been dreaming about Balloons….the only thing I can come up with is because I am embarking on new things in my life.  Transitioning into the next stage of my life.  And I welcome it with open arms!!  I also embrace Change because it is only to make me better!

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Photo Credit: doodlindimurals.blogspot.com

Eight Balloons

Eight balloons no one was buyin’

All broke loose one afternoon.

Eight balloons with strings a-flyin’,

Free to do what they wanted to.

One flew up to touch the sun – POP!

One thought highways might be fun – POP!

One took a nap in a cactus pile – POP!

One stayed to play with a careless child – POP!

One tried to taste some bacon fryin’ – POP!

One fell in love with a porcupine – POP!

One looked close in a crocodile’s mouth – POP!

One sat around ’til his air ran out – WHOOSH!

Eight balloons no one was buyin’ -

They broke loose and away they flew,

Free to float and free to fly

And free to pop where they wanted to.

By:  Sheldon Allan Silverstein

My challenge for you for 2013 is to do exactly what it is that elevates you to the next level.  Mentally, Physically, Financially, even Emotionally, and most definitely Spiritually.

Even though it is almost 30 days into the New Year…..Happy New Year from Lovebugsworld to your world!  Stay Tuned…….

“And the Award goes to………”

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I want to thank Q.U.E for this nomination.  Please go and check out her blog!  I promise you will not be disappointed.  I can always count on learning good information as well as being encouraged by what she post daily.  I was so honored and very surprised to find out that I had been nominated.  I can truly say that when I started this blog I didn’t know it would have this impact.  I was only looking for an outlet for my thoughts, feelings, and writing, but to see how it has evolved and to now be recognized for it…….I am all too thankful!!!

We all have taken certain journeys to get to where we are in life.  Some have been rocky and some have been smooth, but by the grace of God a lot of us have arrived.  No one ever said this journey called life would be easy, but I know I can speak for a lot of people and say that these journeys have been filled with so much knowledge that has allowed us to birth countless and countless of stories to share with the world.

When I embarked on this blogging journey I did not know where it would take me.  What I do know is what I had planned is not fully where I ended up and I am completely okay with that.  My ultimate goal in life is to always be blessed to be a blessing to others and if I reached one person or millions then I have done what I have set out to do.

Recently someone told me that they were having a long rough day and when they just happened to look up and see me smiling, it brightened their day.  They went on to say that every time they see me I am always smiling.  That really made me smile even more and made my heart smile as well.  That truly meant a lot to me!  We are placed here for a purpose and I plan to continue carrying out my purpose!  2012 was an eventful year and what a great way to end on such a high note!!! :-)

 

The blog(s) that I want to nominate are as follows:

I Spy God

TheJourn3y

Waiting for the Karma Truck

Once A Month for Ladies

Q.U.E

Please check out these blogs!!  I have followed many of these blogs for a year and I can say you are in for a treat!!

 

The ‘rules’ for this award are simple:

  1. Select another blog(s) who deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award
  2. Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award;
  3. Include a link back to this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award at the Thought Palette and provide these ‘rules’ in your post (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!)
  4. Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them
  5. You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award Facebook group and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience.
  6. As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog and sidebar … and start collecting stars…

Inspirational, Who me? Couldn’t be!

I have never thought of myself as being inspirational until I began my blogging journey. I have always been opinionated and because of it I’ve been accused of being a “know it all”, bossy, lacking empathy, no emotion, mean, and the list could go on. The picture I am painting doesn’t sound too appealing, huh? It sounds like a monster, right?  My argument has been, Yes…I am bossy, but I would never ask someone to do something I am not willing to do myself. Yes, I do feel like I know a lot of things, but I’ve never claimed to know everything. That would be insane! Yes, I have struggled with not having empathy. I don’t think I lack it completely, but I deem it where i feel it is necessarily suited. And usually it is not where the accuser feels it should be.  Crazy thing is….for everyone that has called me anything other than my name, usually has to come back and apologize and tell me, “Hey, you were right!”  But, I don’t gloat, I just keep doing what I believe is right and because I have the biggest heart, I will always still do my part and being exactly what God has placed me here to do and that’s be helpful! I do empathize with people and situations, but what I don’t tolerate are excuses. I believe whole heartedly in being who or what you say you are and doing exactly what you say you will. I believe in action. If you say it, then do it. There is nothing more disappointing than to be told something that is not carried out by action.

Lately, along with blogging, I have started back writing in my journal.  I have seriously been trying to reevaluate myself….my life period.  I believe I live up to what I speak, but I have been seeking the help from God to make me over.  To make me fit in his eyes so that with anything I put out, it be from God.  I am human, so I do make mistakes.  So, I do ask for forgiveness when I do fall short.  I am so thankful for how far God has brought me!!  I will continue to seek guidance and to live out exactly what He has placed me here to do.  And in that process, a few have deemed me as inspirational and even though I didn’t think I could wear that hat, I will accept it. There are those before me that have inspired me and there are people who are continuously inspiring me as I type these words, so If I can give back an ounce of what I have been given, then it makes my heart and soul smile.  So, for every negative thing that I have been called, there is a piece of positivity lying within.

Ironically, I have been sitting on this posting for a few weeks, but today as I was catching up on some of my fellow bloggers posts, I came across my favorite bloggers site ispygod and exactly what I had been feeling, she had already wrote about, so it gave me the push to finish this posting.  Writers block always come at the wrong time!!!  Lol!  So instead of scraping it, I decided to share it!!

~Lovebug

“Go Get It”

Every Thursday I am tuned in to Mary Mary’s reality show!!  I love how they show us that even if you are walking that path with God, it doesn’t have to be so uptight and that you are just as real as the next person.  Problems don’t skip you and the enemy still tries to be a busy body.  They have a new single out and the words are awesome!!  This is a great song to give you that extra push!  Check it out and the video….

“Go Get It”

[Verse 1:]
It’s like you’re looking through a telescope you see where you gone be
Growing getting better you’re not the person they see
Can’t be mad at the things you been through cuz they built yo muscle
Now you’re stronger than you’ve ever been they can’t stop yo hustleYo Faith ain’t never small that’s what brought you this far
See you got your dreams and you got your prayers and you got Yo God he gone take you there
See everybody has a season and I believe this one’s yours
Cuz you been workin, waitin, this what you been prayin for[Chorus:]
Go get it, Go Get it, Go get it, Go get it, Go get it
Go get yo blessing
Go get it, Go get it, Go get it, Go get it, Go get it, Go get it
It’s yo time, it’s yo time, it’s yo time, it’s yo time[Verse 2:]
You were made to live a good life and that’s what I believe
So hit the floor say a prayer start working you got to do something
It’s alright to crawl before you walk it’s alright to walk before you run
But if you wanna get what you never got gotta do something that you never done

[Repeat Chorus]

[Bridge:]
You’ve been qualified
But his mercy multiplied
You cannot be denied
Cuz you’re finally certified
It’s official
Go ahead and testify
He’s gone bless you
You gone bless him
Now God be glorified

[Repeat Chorus 2x's]

Day 14 #photoadayMay…Grass, a Rainbow and the Silver Lining

I missed yesterdays “Photo A Day May” because it was so rainy and I didn’t want to take a gloomy picture of Day 14 “Grass”! So, I decided to wait until today since it is nice and pretty out. I was just reading butterflyofhappiness’ blog that I stumbled across today thanks to reading one of my favorite bloggers blog today(Eric at healthdemystified). The first thing that I see when I clicked on her blog is a picture of a Rainbow and I LOVE rainbows!! Rainbows remind us of God’s Promise…..Genesis 9:11-17. (Please check out her awesome post for today!!)

Yesterday was a trying day for me. I fell into a “I just want to curl up into my own cocoon and shut the world out” day! No motivation what so ever. I had decided at the end of last week that I would take a week off of blogging and just focus on trying to write my book that I have been working on and how do I start the week?!! In a funk of a mood. Maybe because the weather was so gloomy and my mood matched it, but I just wanted to stay in my room and I literally did not resurface until the lack there of sun went down. And then I was beating myself up for not sticking to the plan of working on my book. Let’s just say nothing got done yesterday.

Low and behold today…the sun is out and there is not a trace of rain and I was able to take my pic!! And in that pic there is a tiny yellow flower that caught my eye. That put a knowing smile on my face!! Just as I was composing this, I was thinking about the silver lining of it all….it’s okay to began again. We are blessed to see another day. It’s another chance to be all that we can be and continue to do exactly what we were placed here to do!! :-) Happy Tuesday!!

Hey all You Bloggers…Here’s to your Awesomeness!!

I began this blogging journey a little over 2 months ago and as I was telling a few other bloggers, what I had in mind to do with my blog is completely different from what it has turned into. Not a bad thing at all…I just let it flow and here are the results. I like to think that what I post is just all these random thoughts that come across my mind. I decided to be transparent, which was a big step for me because I am such a strong person and I am use to being the one that has to stay strong for others and be that shoulder, that helping hand, the one to wipe someone else tears, and the one to say “It’s okay…it’s going to be alright.” But, the moment I decide that sometimes I need those very things and it’s not a sign of weakness to say, “Hey, I need exactly what I give!”…..life took on a new meaning. Thus, the birth of Lovebugsworld! ;-)

With that being said, along this blogging journey, I have met some awesome bloggers and it still amazes me with all the wonderful things I read and come across. It just shows you how we’re all unified in a sense where we share that common thing….blogging, but yet are minds all are unique. Hence the topics we choose to share with the world and I love it!! And even though a lot of us are not being compensated monetarily, we are truly doing what we love!! We have discovered things about ourselves that we probably didn’t realize was there and if we did know, we have increased those things.

Blogging is so serious because we are checking emails in our sleep, approving comments and responding at the crack of dawn, we are thinking of things to write at the start of the day, in the middle of day and or night, and the list goes on. I am guilty and I dare not believe I am the only one…lol!! Blogging is a full-time job. Hey, it’s a job I actually don’t mind giving all my time to. ;-)

Thank you to the following Bloggers…you guys/gals rock!!!

dliteraryprescription.wordpress.com (my awesome husband)

wisdomistheprinciplething.wordpress.com (my awesome bestie)

ellecwolfe.com

healthdemystified.wordpress.com(Eric!!!!)

xlittlemsmentalcasex.wordpress.com(Tinisha!!)

livinginyourworld.com(my fav Top 5 Friday guy ;-))

inspiredthoughtinspiredaction.com

que274.wordpress.com

waitingforthekarmatruck.com

ispygod.net(my inspiration dosage)

plasticbagpoetry.wordpress.com

thefoolishtruth.com(my laugh factory)

misfit1976.wordpress.com

lindsaythomas20.wordpress.com

outsideair.wordpress.com

And here’s to the new blogs I have found over the last day or so….

peasandcougars.com(A sure laugh and awesome animation)

eyelaugh.wordpress.com(Another awesomely animated blog)

sandylikeabeach.wordpress.com

Here’s to our Love of Blogging!!!

~Lovebug :-)

Using Your God given Talent or Risk Losing it

I have heard “Use your God-given Talent or lose it” so much over the last 10 years whether it was said to me or a topic in church for the masses that it had me somewhat in fear of the inevitable.  Losing something sucks no matter how you paint the picture!  All I could think of was…..OMG!!!!  I can actually lose something knowingly.  Most of the time, we unknowingly lose things, but to know to me is far worse.  It’s like showing up for the “Hunger Games” with no ammunition!  It’s just like using medicine after the expiration date and/or eating expired food.  Everything in life has an expiration date and if you don’t use it, then it will be of no use or worse…YOU LOSE IT!

So, what’s God Given Talent?  To me, it’s simple……we’re put here to use the gifts that HE has given us and use those talent(s) to Serve.  A great scripture to back that up is Ephesians 4:11-12.  Some people figure out early on what their talents are and for some it takes some time to get there.  No path is better than the next as long as you figure out your purpose.  A good way to figure out your purpose is to figure out what you excel well at and the things that you really enjoy doing.  This would save a lot of wasted money on majors in college that people are only chasing for A.  Because that’s what is expected(a long history of family doctors, lawyers, etc), B.  It pays well, so I am only doing it for the money and C.  It sounds good, so I will try it.

In the bible, there is a great story that is evidence of the consequences of not using your talent.  I advise everyone to read Matthew 25:14-30.  Once you figure out what your talent is….go out into the World and Serve.  Nothing pleases God more than to use what HE has given us to Honor Him.  Romans 12:6 tells us, “And since we have different gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us exercise them accordingly.”  In all things….BE THANKFUL and Acknowledge HIM.

I found out my talent later on–about 2 years after going into a major that did not hold my interest(Psychology).  Once I figured it out(Graphic Design), I still did not use it to the fullest potential(For so many reasons).  Don’t muse yourself with self-doubt or that one bad client as I did….embrace it and watch it grow.  If I had known or had the opportunity to tap into my talent early on, then it would’ve taken me so long to figure it out.  Graphic Design isn’t the only thing I am great at, I house plenty of talents(Writing, anything Artsy/Creative and Kids) and now that I know….I cannot lose it, it’s not even an option at this point.  Here’s to finding your talent and using it!!

~Lovebug